Have you ever had that boss or friend who you swear loves to talk. Talk about anything and everything. And when you try to get a word in they jump right in with another story or something about them? In Steven Covey’s book “How To Win Friends and Influence People” one thing you can do to win friends and influence people is listen. Not just listen but listen with a clear mind. Understand and remember what the person is talking about.
To become that great leader. That Level 5 leader that John Maxwell talks about in his books. That leader that everyone looks up to and respects at work. You will need to become a great listener. Become the best listener you know. It’s not hard. I have been told that I am a leader who cares about my people. That understands my people. That takes an interest in my people. That wants to help my people. I have been told this by colleagues, management, and my team members. I attribute this to becoming a great listener. When you listen and understand people something triggers. They can trust you more than most.
I have not always been a great listener… Just ask my mom. I had to learn to become a great listener. For me there are just 5 simple rules to becoming a great leader.
The 5 key strategies to becoming a better listener are:
It’s getting close to the new year. You know what that means… Time for new years resolutions? We also know new years resolutions don’t work. Often they are last minute thoughts. Not something we put much thought or planning into. Or maybe we are just doing it because everyone else is doing it. I have never been much for new years resolutions but I have set annual goals every year. I have been setting goals for myself for over 30 years. I have found the best time to plan for annual goals (January – December) is in November of each year.
Each November I sit down and use a spreadsheet I have developed to plan out my annual goals. I am happy to say that I have been success most of the time at all these goals.
Setting Goals In November are 10 Times More Successful Than Those Set in January.
3 reasons I have found planning your next years goals in November are:
So many people struggle to get more friends, to get more business relations. If you want to get more friends and get more business relations the formula is easy. Maybe you want to be better friends with the ones you already have. Maybe you want to have better business relations with the ones you already have.
The secret formula is this:
You will aquire more friends in 2 months being interested in them than you will aquire in two years wanting people to be interested in you.
How many times when people tell you about their weekend or a business deal you respond with relating it to something you did? It might seem simple to do that because it’s natural. We want to tell people about things that happen to us. It’s not natural for as many to listen to people and respond with happiness for them or saying how great it is. People are drawn to those that they feel want to hear about them. Not to those that always have an opinion.
We all have many aspects of our lives. Family, Work, Church, our extra curricular activities, friends, and so many different other areas that give us the chance to be somebody different in every given situation. I know people that are the cursing tyrant type of person at work and then come home and are a loving caring person with the family. I know people that treat the people at work better then they treat their own family. You have the person who is terrible at home, terrible at work, and then is a saint when attending church.
Why do people spend so much time living to please people in different ways? This adds stress and inconsistency that the person even becomes confused who they are. People can be different around certain people that even their own spouse or mother wouldn’t recognize them. Why do you think the phrase “Do you kiss your momma with that mouth?” is so popular. People will say things in one situation they would never say in another. They would say one thing to somebody they would never say to another. We won’t bring up email or text messages. That can bring on a different type of person all together.
Make people feel important. Communicate! You need people who are committed. You will not have commitment without connection and you will not have connection without communication. Talk to people daily!
Many people get into blogging because they want to write about something they love. If people start blogging because they feel it will help them get ahead in their business or their industry and don’t love what they do or don’t love what they are blogging about then they might have a surprise coming. If you love your job and you love what you do then blogging is an excellent idea if not one of the best ways to get promoted (achievement and accomplishments are two of the best ways to get promoted). Even a high quality blog on an unrelated topic to your career could be beneficial. You just have to present it in such a way that it puts you over other candidates. A great blog can be one of the best references on a resume or cover letter. If you have a high quality blog and blog about what you love it can even be a conversation piece during an interview.
Here are some questions you can ask yourself before you start blogging.
I recently bought a car. It was a nice car and all cars are expensive these days. About a week after I drove the car home I got a letter from the dealer/salesrep. It was a nice letter that was all printed out on a piece of paper. The letter had my name at the top. But it and was a carbon copy type letter that could be sent to everyone who purchased a car from this dealer. At the bottom was my sales persons name and a space for him to sign. Only the sales person never signed the letter. Now it was nice to get this letter don’t get me wrong but there was no personalization at all. The sale person did not even sign where there was room for the signature. I doubt it was my salesman who put the letter in the envelope and mailed it to me.
With today being Labor Day in the United States I want to extend a challenge to every reader of this blog. Unplug and enjoy the day. No cell phone, no computer, and if your brave enough no TV! It’s important for our bodies and our mind to recharge. People need to take breaks during the day and during the week. Unplugging can improve productivity!
I just wanted to take some time to post an update on this site. Blogs, ideas, training, etc are all coming together. YouTube Videos, Webinars, etc are all in the planning and development stages. I look forward to posting blogs very soon. What can you expect from this site?
This site will give you the tools to Win at Life, Win at Business, and Win at Leadership. I will be happy to share my 30+ years experience in these areas and give you the tools that helped me succeed.
I planned to post once a week. After reviewing the areas between life and business it only made sense to post twice a week. Here is what I am planning so far.
Every Blog will focus on winning at life, winning at business, and winning at leadership. Focusing on accomplishing more though goals and standards.
Mondays – Leadership and Business Focus. This will start out your work week and give you the tools to Win at Leadership, Business, Growth, Etc. Topics: Leadership, entrepreneur, team building, tips on running more successful meetings, etc.
Thursdays – As we get closer to the weekend we can adjust our focus from the busy work week to focus on ourselves. Thursday blogs will focus on personal development. These will have a leadership theme and will help you with Leadership and Business but with a focus on Winning at Life. The main focus is to give you the tools to make you better. Topics: Health & Fitness, Organization, Financial, Family, Social, and a variety of other topics.